Article Source Parade
When it comes to finding the perfect partner, or someone special to spend your time with, even the most eligible bachelors and bachelorettes can find the process challenging at times. Happily for those seeking true love — or just somebody to share jokes about goofy reality TV shows with — a few simple shifts in thinking and strategy are all it takes to improve your chances of connecting with prospective matches, and improve your dating life, especially online. Following, you’ll find five hints and tips that can help you navigate your way through the often topsy-turvy world of modern dating… and, of course, five ways to make the experience more enjoyable, exciting and productive without having to resort to sending winks, charms or or goofy kiss-blowing emojis others’ way every 10 seconds.
Differentiate Yourself — Like many online scenes, the dating world is overcrowded, making it easy to gloss over prospective candidates or jump to conclusions (bo-ring!) at a glance. To avoid being quickly dismissed, play up the attributes that make you different, and attempt to quickly convey them at a glimpse. The more unique you make yourself appear in headlines, photos and descriptions, the more easily you’ll capture others’ attention — and more easily you’ll weed out those who aren’t interested in you. The key is to stand out at first peek. The more you can do so, the likelier you are to give potential matches pause before they automatically swipe left, and give them possible discussion points to latch onto besides the usual “Hey, how’s it going?” That said, remember that when telling your story online, when people are often quickly browsing throughs thumbnails of dozens of potential matches, 90% of making a positive first impression comes down to pictures, not words. To make a positive first impression, choose a sampling of photos (e.g. five to six) that showcase different aspects of your life — e.g. a personal candid, a shot of you traveling, a picture of you hanging out with friends, an image of you with your pet, a photo of you engaging in a group activity, etc. — and help paint a picture of who you are and what you have to offer.
Put the Tools to Work — Wake up and smell the semiconductors: In this high-tech day and age, where people are looking for simpler, more convenient solutions for everything, it’s no surprise that online dating has become a go-to standard as well. So if you’re still holding out on using these services, remember — chances are, potential matches aren’t, and you can often get more time to connect, communicate, and understand what someone’s looking for via online exchanges than chance encounters at local hotspots as well. Literally hundreds of services such as Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match and Happn offer countless ways to meet potential matches from shared interests to who’s crossed paths with you recently. All simply offer additional ways to network and meet people — so why not take advantage of the many tools now available in your toolbox to improve your chances of connecting with that special someone? At the same time though, remember that you don’t necessarily want a pen pal either — once you’ve got a sense if you want to meet someone, it’s best to move conversations offline to the real world, especially to keep interest levels high and sustain momentum.
Be Authentic — Poll any given pool of daters, and chances are virtually all will enthusiastically tell you how much they want to meet someone who shares common values and interests. Ask the same pool of respondents how much they’re actively seeking to meet someone who doesn’t appreciate them for being themselves or takes zero interest in their life passions, and they’ll likely respond with deafening silence. So rather than try to radically change your behavior or perspective, just be yourself — even if your opinions and interests differ, it’s always important to be true to yourself. Not only will the right matches appreciate you for doing so. You’ll also be happier for not settling as well. Pro tip: Listen carefully in conversation for when someone’s trying to “normalize,” or get you to like them by telling you what you want to hear, not what they’re really thinking. As human beings, we all naturally want to be liked. Productive partners know that it’s OK for opinions and interests to differ though, and that it’s OK to agree to disagree, as long as everyone’s needs are being considered and addressed, and you can do so constructively.
Don’t Rush It — Take your time and get to know what it is that you’re really looking for in a prospective partner — it’s not about finding companionship as much it is finding the right companion. People often push themselves toward artificial goals or milestones just to please friends or family members, but rushing it (or worse, settling) never ends well. Instead of looking to build your life around someone, build the life you want to be living first, then look for the special someone who also values these ideals, and ways to integrate them into it. When the right fit presents themselves, and the time is right to make a life change, you’ll be aware of it, and in a much better place to do so.
Be Strategic, But Not Cynical — Browse through even a small sampling of online profiles, and you’ll notice that many treat the matchmaking process like the hiring and interviewing process for a job, complete with a checklist of physical/intellectual criteria and expectations they’re looking for from potential mates. Instead, consider giving everyone a chance — you never know what opportunities you’ll be missing until you broaden your horizons. After all, qualities like kindness, loyalty, honesty and good-heartedness don’t usually make most online dating apps’ lists of potential filters you can narrow matches down by.
Article Source Parade