Single And A Parent With A Purpose

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Hi, my name is Kylie. I’m 35 and I have a 4-year-old daughter, and [deep breath] I’m single.

It has been just over a year since my ex and I separated. I’ve tried online dating and even resorted to the Tinder dating app [laughs, looks down at the ground], only to be ghosted after “matching” or striking up conversations with fellow singletons. It sucks and it bruises the ego.

I would like to meet someone and settle down again one day, but I guess the reason I deleted my online profiles and Tinder is because I’m happy.

I have a purpose – my baby girl. I’ve lived, so now it’s my job to ensure she grows up strong and independent. If she finds “the one” I know it will be awesome, but who cares if she doesn’t? You don’t need someone else to make you feel complete.

I don’t want her to have any limitations. If the boy or girl she dates in the future limits her, how can she live the life she wants?

I get a bit of sympathy and comments like “You’re young, there’s still time”, “Are you seeing anyone? Have you tried online dating/community groups/walking/going out..?”, and this pearler “Oh, you’re alone again”.

Nope, I am not alone; I have amazing friends, a great job and my girl. Yes, I am young. Yes, there is probably still time. No, I can’t go out or join groups because my girl needs me – I am a mum.

But you know what? I’m no longer listening to people who think you need a partner to be happy. For the first time in my life I have realised I am happy.

Singledom allows me to starfish in bed and wrap myself up with all the blankets. Plus I can sleep as there is no one snoring next to me. I enjoy doing what I want, when I want – it’s fun and it’s freeing.

One day I may have a partner again; someone to help share the load. But right now it’s time for me and my girl to enjoy each other.

I have a purpose. I am not alone. Neither are you.

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